Hear The Inspiring Message One Transgender Girl And Her Parents Want To Share | Megyn Kelly TODAY

>>> YOURE ABOUT TO MEET A >>> YOURE ABOUT TO MEET A FAMILY WHOSE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FAMILY WHOSE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE FOR THEIR CHILDREN WILL LIKELY FOR THEIR CHILDREN WILL LIKELY INSPIRE YOU TO BE A MORE
UNDERSTANDING, SUPPORTIVE UNDERSTANDING, SUPPORTIVE
PARENT. PARENT.
IT DID ME. IT DID ME. THE GROSHANDLERS WERE KNOWN AS
THE FAMILY WITH FOUR BOYS.N AS THE FAMILY WITH FOUR BOYS.
UNTIL ALL THAT BEGAN TO CHANGE. UNTIL ALL THAT BEGAN TO CHANGE. WATCH. WATCH. >> JOHN AND I WERE BLESSED TO
HAVE THREE BOYS.RE BLESSED TO HAVE THREE BOYS.
AND THEN, OUR FOURTH WAS BORN. AND THEN, OUR FOURTH WAS BORN. AND WE NAMED THIS KIDDO CHAZZ.
IN OUR COMMUNITY, WE WERE KNOWN IN OUR COMMUNITY, WE WERE KNOWN
AS THE FAMILY OF FOUR BOYS. AS THE FAMILY OF FOUR BOYS.
>> Reporter: IN 2008, BY THE >> Reporter: IN 2008, BY THE
TIME THEIR YOUNGEST TURNED 2, TIME THEIR YOUNGEST TURNED 2, THE PARENTS SAW CHAZZS THE PARENTS SAW CHAZZS INTERESTS EMERGE IN A DIFFERENT
DIRECTION THAN THE TODDLERSRENT DIRECTION THAN THE TODDLERS
ROUGH-AND-TUMBLE OLDER BROTHERS.

ROUGH-AND-TUMBLE OLDER BROTHERS. >> WE WOULD BE IN OUR LOCAL
STORE AND CHAZZ WOULD SAY, THE STORE AND CHAZZ WOULD SAY, THE
DOLLS. DOLLS. IVE GOT TO HAVE THAT DOLL. IVE GOT TO HAVE THAT DOLL. I WOULD LOOK AND SAY, A DOLL? I WOULD LOOK AND SAY, A DOLL? REALLY? REALLY? HONESTLY? HONESTLY? >> JENNY AND I WOULD TALK ABOUT >> JENNY AND I WOULD TALK ABOUT HOW THIS IS DIFFERENT.

HOW THIS IS DIFFERENT. AND WE AGREED THAT WE NEEDED TO AND WE AGREED THAT WE NEEDED TO SUPPORT THE DESIRE AND THE SUPPORT THE DESIRE AND THE BEHAVIOR.
>> Reporter: CHAZZS FAVORITE >> Reporter: CHAZZS FAVORITE
COLOR WAS PINK. COLOR WAS PINK.
CHAZZ LIKED FASHION AND CHAZZ LIKED FASHION AND
GRAVITATED TOWARDS BOOKS WITH GRAVITATED TOWARDS BOOKS WITH
FEMALE ROLE MODELS. FEMALE ROLE MODELS.
BEFORE HE STARTED PRESCHOOL, BEFORE HE STARTED PRESCHOOL,
THEY KNEW HE WANTED LONG HAIR. THEY KNEW HE WANTED LONG HAIR.
>> OKAY. >> OKAY.
YOURE THE BALLERINA. YOURE THE BALLERINA. >> WHEN YOU LOOK IN THEIR EYES >> WHEN YOU LOOK IN THEIR EYES AND THEY HAVE THAT LOOK AND THAT
SMILE, AND THEY HAVE THE WAYTHAT SMILE, AND THEY HAVE THE WAY THEY KIND OF MOVE THEIR BODY
THAT TELLS YOU, THIS IS THEY THAT TELLS YOU, THIS IS THE
RIGHT THING. RIGHT THING. EVEN IN KINDERGARTEN, WE DIDNT EVEN IN KINDERGARTEN, WE DIDNT UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT WAS
GOING ON.D EXACTLY WHAT WAS GOING ON.

BUT WE FELT LIKE WE WERE DOING
ALL THE RIGHT THINGS WE KNEW HOW ALL THE RIGHT THINGS WE KNEW HOW
TO DO AT THAT POINT. TO DO AT THAT POINT.
>> Reporter: WHEN CHAZZ WAS >> Reporter: WHEN CHAZZ WAS
READY TO START KINDERGARTEN, READY TO START KINDERGARTEN,
THEY TALKED TO THEIR LOCAL THEY TALKED TO THEIR LOCAL
SCHOOL DISTRICT AND TEACHERS SCHOOL DISTRICT AND TEACHERS
ABOUT CHAZZS DEVELOPING ABOUT CHAZZS DEVELOPING
PERSONALITY. PERSONALITY. AND WE SAID, THIS IS OUR CHILD.
AND YOU KNOW US.S IS OUR CHILD. AND YOU KNOW US.
AND YOU KNOW WHO WE ARE. AND YOU KNOW WHO WE ARE.
AND WE ARE PSYCHED THAT OUR AND WE ARE PSYCHED THAT OUR
CHILD IS EVOLVING. CHILD IS EVOLVING.
IT WAS REALLY COMFORTABLE. IT WAS REALLY COMFORTABLE.
>> Reporter: JOHN AND JEN SAY >> Reporter: JOHN AND JEN SAY
CHAZZS CLASSMATES SUPPORTED CHAZZS CLASSMATES SUPPORTED
THEIR CHILDS SELF-EXPRESSION. THEIR CHILDS SELF-EXPRESSION.
>> ITS BEEN A JOURNEY. >> ITS BEEN A JOURNEY.
AS CHAZZ WENT FROM KINDERGARTEN AS CHAZZ WENT FROM KINDERGARTEN
TO FIRST, SECOND, THIRD GRADE, TO FIRST, SECOND, THIRD GRADE,
WEVE LEARNED SOMETHING EACH WEVE LEARNED SOMETHING EACH
YEAR.

YEAR. >> Reporter: ONE MORNING WHEN >> Reporter: ONE MORNING WHEN CHAZZ WAS IN FOURTH GRADE, IN
THE BUSTLE OF GETTING READY FOR THE BUSTLE OF GETTING READY FOR
SCHOOL, JEN SAYS HER WORLD SCHOOL, JEN SAYS HER WORLD
STOPPED. STOPPED. >> I WILL NEVER FORGET THAT DAY. >> I WILL NEVER FORGET THAT DAY. I LOOKED OVER AT CHAZZ.
AND ALL OF A SUDDEN, I JUST SAW, AND ALL OF A SUDDEN, I JUST SAW,
I SAW TEARS.

I SAW TEARS.
I SAW THESE HUGE TEARS. I SAW THESE HUGE TEARS.
AND IT JUST CAUSED ME TO STOP. AND IT JUST CAUSED ME TO STOP.
IT CAUSED ME TO STOP. IT CAUSED ME TO STOP.
I REMEMBER, I DROPPED THE THINGS I REMEMBER, I DROPPED THE THINGS
THAT WERE IN MY HANDS AND I THAT WERE IN MY HANDS AND I
SAID, HONEY, WHATS WRONG? SAID, HONEY, WHATS WRONG?
WHY ARE YOU SO SAD? WHY ARE YOU SO SAD?
AND CHAZZ SAID TO ME, LOOKED AND CHAZZ SAID TO ME, LOOKED
RIGHT AT ME AND CHAZZ SAID, MOM, RIGHT AT ME AND CHAZZ SAID, MOM,
WHAT HAPPENS IF IM A GIRL WHAT HAPPENS IF IM A GIRL
BECAUSE I AM? BECAUSE I AM?
I AM.

I AM.
I AM A GIRL. I AM A GIRL.
WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO ME? WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO ME?
WILL YOU LOVE ME? WILL YOU LOVE ME?
WILL MY BROTHERS LOVE ME? WILL MY BROTHERS LOVE ME?
WILL MY DAD LOVE ME? WILL MY DAD LOVE ME?
>> JOINING ME NOW, 11-YEAR-OLD >> JOINING ME NOW, 11-YEAR-OLD
CHAZZIG GROSHANDLER, ALONG WITH CHAZZIG GROSHANDLER, ALONG WITH
HER PARENTS. HER PARENTS. HOW ARE YOU DOING, LOVE?
>> GOOD.YOU DOING, LOVE? >> GOOD. >> SO GREAT TO HAVE YOU HERE. >> SO GREAT TO HAVE YOU HERE. JEN, CHAZZIE SAYS THAT TO YOU,
BECAUSE I AM.SAYS THAT TO YOU, BECAUSE I AM.
AND WHAT DID YOU SAY IN AND WHAT DID YOU SAY IN
RESPONSE? RESPONSE? >> I SAID, HONEY, WE BELIEVE >> I SAID, HONEY, WE BELIEVE YOU.

YOU. WE BELIEVE YOU. WE BELIEVE YOU. WE WERE GOING TO DO EVERYTHING
WE COULD FROM THAT POINTYTHING WE COULD FROM THAT POINT
FORWARD, TO MAKE SURE SHE HAD FORWARD, TO MAKE SURE SHE HAD
THE BEST LIFE EVER. THE BEST LIFE EVER.
>> WAS THAT SCARY TO SAY THAT TO >> WAS THAT SCARY TO SAY THAT TO
YOUR MOM? YOUR MOM? >> YEAH. >> YEAH. I DIDNT KNOW WHAT TIME AND I I DIDNT KNOW WHAT TIME AND I WOULD ALWAYS BE SCARED IF MY
PARENTS WOULDNT LOVE ME.F MY PARENTS WOULDNT LOVE ME.
>> IT SEEMS LIKE JUST KNOWING >> IT SEEMS LIKE JUST KNOWING
THEM, THE LITTLE I DO, YOU WOULD THEM, THE LITTLE I DO, YOU WOULD
NEVER REALISTICALLY HAVE TO FEAR NEVER REALISTICALLY HAVE TO FEAR
THAT, RIGHT? THAT, RIGHT?
THEY SEEM SO SUPPORTIVE AND THEY SEEM SO SUPPORTIVE AND
AMAZING. AMAZING. WHEN YOUR MOM RESPONDED LIKE SHE
DID, HOW DID THAT FEEL? LIKE SHE DID, HOW DID THAT FEEL? >> IT MADE ME RELIEVED THAT I
DIDNT HAVE TO HIDE WHO I WASI DIDNT HAVE TO HIDE WHO I WAS
INSIDE. INSIDE. >> WHEN DID YOU START TO FEEL, >> WHEN DID YOU START TO FEEL, IM IN THIS BODY THAT HAS BEEN
DESIGNATED MALE.THAT HAS BEEN DESIGNATED MALE.

I KNOW I AM A GIRL. I KNOW I AM A GIRL. >> EVER SINCE I WAS LIKE 5, I
ALWAYS CAME TO MY BEST FRIENDS ALWAYS CAME TO MY BEST FRIENDS
HOUSE. HOUSE. AND I ALWAYS PLAYED DRESS-UP. AND I ALWAYS PLAYED DRESS-UP. WE DID, LIKE, SO MUCH GIRLIE WE DID, LIKE, SO MUCH GIRLIE STUFF. STUFF. AND I THOUGHT, MAYBE IM A GIRL. AND I THOUGHT, MAYBE IM A GIRL. MAYBE IM NOT A BOY.
>> ITS AMAZING THAT THAT JUST >> ITS AMAZING THAT THAT JUST
CAME TO YOU. CAME TO YOU. WERE YOU AWARE THATS A
POSSIBILITY?RE THATS A POSSIBILITY? >> YEAH. >> YEAH. >> YOU DID KNOW.
>> WE SEE YOU IN THE VIDEO. >> WE SEE YOU IN THE VIDEO.
AND YOU SAY, YOURE THE AND YOU SAY, YOURE THE
BALLERINA. BALLERINA. YOU SOUND SO SUPPORTIVE AND
YOURE LIKE, YOURE — YOURED YOURE LIKE, YOURE — YOURE
THE FOOTBALL PLAYER. THE FOOTBALL PLAYER.
WERE YOU OPEN-MINDED TO THAT WERE YOU OPEN-MINDED TO THAT
POSSIBILITY? POSSIBILITY? OR WERE YOU NOT THINKING ABOUT
IT EARLY ON?NOT THINKING ABOUT IT EARLY ON?
>> I WASNT THINKING ABOUT IT >> I WASNT THINKING ABOUT IT
EARLY ON.

EARLY ON. AND IM OPEN-MINDED TO WHAT I AM
WITH ALL MY KIDS, TO BEHAT I AM WITH ALL MY KIDS, TO BE
UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING AND UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING AND
SUPPORTIVE AND TO LISTEN TO SUPPORTIVE AND TO LISTEN TO
THEM. THEM. IF SHE WANTED TO BE A BALLERINA
THAT DAY, SHE GOT TO BE ALERINA THAT DAY, SHE GOT TO BE A
BALLERINA AND I SUPPORT THAT.

BALLERINA AND I SUPPORT THAT.
>> CHAZZIE DO YOU REMEMBER WHAT >> CHAZZIE DO YOU REMEMBER WHAT
IT WAS LIKE TO HAVE PEOPLE IT WAS LIKE TO HAVE PEOPLE
TELLING YOU THAT YOURE A BOY? TELLING YOU THAT YOURE A BOY?
>> I FELT BAD AND SAD BECAUSE >> I FELT BAD AND SAD BECAUSE
THAT WASNT ME.

THAT WASNT ME.
I WAS A GIRL. I WAS A GIRL.
AND EVERYBODY, SINCE I AND EVERYBODY, SINCE I
TRANSITIONED, SHOULD KNOW ME AS TRANSITIONED, SHOULD KNOW ME AS
A GIRL AND NOT AS A BOY. A GIRL AND NOT AS A BOY.
>> IS IT TRUE, JEN, SOME PEOPLE >> IS IT TRUE, JEN, SOME PEOPLE
THINK YOU PUSHED CHAZZ INTO THINK YOU PUSHED CHAZZ INTO
BECOMING CHAZZIE, TO OWNING BECOMING CHAZZIE, TO OWNING
CHAZZ CHAZZ
CHAZZIE, BECAUSE YOU HAD FOUR CHAZZIE, BECAUSE YOU HAD FOUR
BOYS? BOYS?
YOU WERE THE DESPERATE MOTHER YOU WERE THE DESPERATE MOTHER
FOR A GIRL? FOR A GIRL?
>> THATS SO INTERESTING. >> THATS SO INTERESTING.
CHAZZIE WAS BORN INTO THE MOST CHAZZIE WAS BORN INTO THE MOST
MASCULINE OF HOUSEHOLDS. MASCULINE OF HOUSEHOLDS.
WE HAVE THREE OLDER BROTHERS AND WE HAVE THREE OLDER BROTHERS AND
A DAD AND A BOY DOG. A DAD AND A BOY DOG.
LIKE A FLASHING NEON SIGN THAT LIKE A FLASHING NEON SIGN THAT
SAID, WE RAISE BOYS, BOYS, BOYS.

SAID, WE RAISE BOYS, BOYS, BOYS.
AND IN SPITE OF THAT, SHE WENT AND IN SPITE OF THAT, SHE WENT
IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION. IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION.
SO, THATS ACTUALLY ONE OF THE SO, THATS ACTUALLY ONE OF THE
THINGS WE HOPE TO COMMUNICATE, THINGS WE HOPE TO COMMUNICATE,
BY SHARING OUR STORY WITH YOU BY SHARING OUR STORY WITH YOU
AND WITH FOLKS IS THAT, THIS IS AND WITH FOLKS IS THAT, THIS IS
REAL. REAL. AND ITS COOL.
THE MORE FOLKS HEAR OUR STORY, THE MORE FOLKS HEAR OUR STORY,
WE HOPE, WE HOPE MORE FOLKS WILL WE HOPE, WE HOPE MORE FOLKS WILL
UNDERSTAND THE KIDS WERE UNDERSTAND THE KIDS WERE
RAISING AND THE VALUES THAT WE RAISING AND THE VALUES THAT WE
HAVE, WHAT WE EXPECT OF OUR HAVE, WHAT WE EXPECT OF OUR
CHILDREN, ARE REALLY NOT SO CHILDREN, ARE REALLY NOT SO
DIFFERENT THAN THEIR OWN DIFFERENT THAN THEIR OWN
FAMILIES.

FAMILIES. >> IVE HEARD AN EXPRESSION THAT
IS, YOUR ONLY PROBLEM IS YOURAT IS, YOUR ONLY PROBLEM IS YOUR
BELIEF THAT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM. BELIEF THAT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM.
AND IF YOU LOOK AT A SITUATION AND IF YOU LOOK AT A SITUATION
THAT COMES YOUR WAY THAT IS THAT COMES YOUR WAY THAT IS
CHALLENGING AND DONT SAY THATS CHALLENGING AND DONT SAY THATS
A PROBLEM, BUT THATS AN A PROBLEM, BUT THATS AN
OPPORTUNITY, AND THATS JUST A OPPORTUNITY, AND THATS JUST A
CHANGE THAT WELL WORK WITH, IT CHANGE THAT WELL WORK WITH, IT
CAN CHANGE YOUR ENTIRE OUTLOOK CAN CHANGE YOUR ENTIRE OUTLOOK
ON IT. ON IT.
CHAZZIE, AS YOU LOOK BACK ON CHAZZIE, AS YOU LOOK BACK ON
YOUR SOCIAL TRANSITION, WHATS YOUR SOCIAL TRANSITION, WHATS
BEEN THE HARDEST PART? BEEN THE HARDEST PART?
AND WHATS BEEN THE BEST PART? AND WHATS BEEN THE BEST PART?
>> WELL, FIRST OF ALL, THE BAD >> WELL, FIRST OF ALL, THE BAD
PART THAT I FELT WAS, LIKE, IF I PART THAT I FELT WAS, LIKE, IF I
WOULD HAVE FRIENDS.

WOULD HAVE FRIENDS.
AND WOULD THEY STILL ACCEPT ME AND WOULD THEY STILL ACCEPT ME
IF I TOLD THEM? IF I TOLD THEM?
AND THE GOOD PART WAS JUST BEING AND THE GOOD PART WAS JUST BEING
ME AND GOING TO SO MANY PLACES ME AND GOING TO SO MANY PLACES
AND SEEING OTHERS THAT ARE JUST AND SEEING OTHERS THAT ARE JUST
LIKE ME GIVES ME SO MUCH.

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